"Huuumm"
Is it wrong if we changed because the situation has changed and our priority also changed??
One night..
Mi fren (M) : He has changed, i can't be his best friend no longer
Mi (S) : Huhh??? You mean?
M : Yeah, he has changed..he never want to share his problems with me..but he always wants to know mine
S : Humm..yeahh maybe he just don't want to share it with u.. we must appreciate his decission on it
M : That's why i can't be his friend anymore..
I don't know anything about him now..even all the big issues..
i don't know, but u know..
He shared it with u but not with me
S : Like what?
M : Like when his sister was sick..he didn't let me know bout it..
S : Humm..he let me knew coz he thought i could suggest him..where to take his sister for a good medication
M : Yeah..he only shared his problem to the one who can give him solution on it, that's why we only can be friends.. not best friend.. or better if i called him ex friend..
S : Huhh..you mean? You don't want to be his friend anymore?
M : ..Coz he has changed.. he don't want to share his problems with me
M : He's such an introvert..
S : Huuuuuu..uuu..uum... (deep long breath)
S : I don't know what kind of person he is now.. we don't chatz much lately
S: Buuuuuuuuuuut....
He has told me this thing..
"People..might not always be the same..people might changed.. based on the situation and priority.. And we can't forced someone to be always the same.. in line with the changed of situatioan and priority everything will changed.."
S : Based on his statement.. I thought his priority is now his GF and his career :)
M : I thought his priority is now his GF and his career :) <- yup you're right
S : Yeah..i thought that's why he has changed..
Friendship.. fellowship.. us.. used to be his priority.. but now his priority has changed.. i think we can't forced him to be the same..
M : ..... (Huuum)
S : He has changed his priority, and we're no longer included in it..so what..
We are not more then his friend.. if he thought that his GF and career is the most precious things right now.. what can we do?
M : .......... (Huuum)
S : He has his own life, i have my own life..and u also have ur own life.. we can't forced anything..u can't forced him to be the same and share everyting with u..
S : We must appreciate his privacy.. we must appreciate his decission
If we're not part of his priority anymore..so just faced it..
It's sad i know (have been through those sadness too) but thats the fact.. u can do nothing bout it
S : As a good friend.. i thought it's better if just stay where we are..
Not moving back..not moving forward.. just stand still.. always be there..if only one day he look back.. and we will be there for him..
M : Hahaha that's stupid
S : Yeah i know..that's sounds stupid and pathetic.. but should we pull him back.. pulling him out of the life that he choose and enjoy now..isn't that sounds egoist..
He said his GF is the most wonderful gift that God has sent him in this life^^
M : .............. (Huuum)
S : For me.. better to let him go and be happy with his choices.. then make him stay..but he didn't enjoy it anymore
M : Yeah..whatever lah.. i just can't be his friend anymore
...
S : Huuuu..uuu..uuum... (speechless)
And tonight..here i am thinking back about those conversation..
Huuuum... is it wrong for someone to changed his priority..
He is the one who used to idolizing and praised the word of friendship.. now is ride his own ship and left his friends behind
He is the one who will do everything for the sake of friendship.. now think more about himself and said that i'm a "cuek" person.. i don't really care about others
He is the one who always try to help others..now don't really care about them..even when they are in big troubles
He is the one who always try to keep in touch with his frenz.. now don't care..even to say hello or how are you
Sad..but that's true..
Is it wrong if he changed.because..we..his friend is no longer in the priority list..
Hum maybe we're still there..but in number ten or more..
Buuuuuuuuuut..in the other hand
Is it wrong if he try to moving on
He made a new priority list (such as GF and career) and try to make those priority in the top of the list..and build a new happy life with it..
Maybe he thought that he will never loose his friends..thus friendship can last forever but GF and career wont last..unless he works hard on it..^^
And someday..there will be time where only he, himself, his GF (maybe become his wife someday) and his career which will be his whole life all about.. that's why those things become his top priority right now^^
And about friends we might not be the only friends he had.. he still can make new friends.. and we..we maybe not become close friends any longer..but we will always still be his friend (friendship is last forever, remember..there's an ex GF, ex BF, ex Boss, etc but there's no ex friend huehehee^^)
Huuuuummmm.. is it wrong?
Huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuummmm...... Me..?? confused.. i don't know i should smile or cry...
~s@n~ (June,4th 2008)
